Simple Little Update

Some of you may have noticed that I didn’t write a Simple Little Sunday post yesterday. Well, we didn’t have youth group on Sunday because Teen Challenge came to our church and I thought it would be good for the youth to hear from them.

So in lieu of that post, I figured I’d give you an update on my life instead. With a few of my own Simple Little Sunday’s tossed in there.

I’m almost afraid to put this out there,

engagement announcement

but wedding plans are ACTUALLY coming together! Finally! We have a tent, tables, chairs, and a dance floor; we confirm with the caterer in 2 days and he supplies EVERYTHING including chicken parm 🙂 and fried mac & cheese; flowers are all set; we ordered our rings; we have a DJ thanks to my dad; 90% of our clothes are purchased; short of plane tickets and a rental car, our honeymoon is pretty much set; we put an engagement announcement in the paper (mainly because I wanted to cut it out and keep it); my work wife has everything she needs to get under way with decor.

Guys, I LOVE checking things off of a list! All we have left are dress fittings, drinks, cake and invitations! Holy crap! Oh, and we need to solidify locations. But that’s a minor detail, right? 😉

Speaking of my work wife, I got to have a date with her yesterday!

work wife date

She no longer works with me, but she’ll always be my work wife! For almost 9 years I spent 40 hrs (sometimes more) a week with this woman. I probably did life with her more than anyone else in my life, and that’s the biggest adjustment. It’s been a couple weeks and I still find myself walking into our my office ready to tell her everything that happened since the last time I saw her. The day after she left I rearranged the office and spread everything out – it was too depressing to see the emptiness of her half.

We have to make more of an effort now, but she’s totally worth it. Gosh I miss her.

I taught Reed how to drive stick.

driving reed

Don’t let the picture fool you, he loved it. And he did great! He just needs to remember that he has to pay attention to what he’s doing or he’ll stall. Heck, I still stall sometimes because I’m not paying attention haha.

He did kill a squirrel though…and I yelled at him for it…and he laughed…he’s such a boy. I didn’t see the poor lifeless body on the road though so I was afraid it was dragging underneath my car, but he checked when we got home and there were no squirrel bits hanging. Thank God!

I’ve got some pretty awesome SLS’s too.

3 or 4 years ago I had a minor surgery done, about 2 years ago I got new glasses, and about a year ago I served at a Women’s Conference at my church. Well, within the last 2 weeks I got a check from Yale for $20 and a check from Lens Crafters for $40 because they somehow overcharged me, and apparently JUST NOTICED IT NOW. And I got a check from the Women’s Conference too!

You guys. Money, literally, just showing up in my mailbox.

And then today I went to submit a $25 fee to my FSA (a pre-tax dollar account I have set up for medical expenses) and saw that I had other receipts I hadn’t submitted yet. Totaling almost $200. What?!

Any concern I had about paying for the wedding is out the window. God’s got this. And He’s got us.

And best of all, in 74 days, I get to call this guy my husband!


Not only that, but he comes with 3 amazing boys!

Some may call it insta-family; I call it insta-destiny.


Summer Vacation, Weddings, Clothes and Money #SimpleLittleSunday

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  • Max got to spend time with Cassandra and the dogs. And he got to talk to a friend he hasn’t talked to in a while.
  • Julia had her acapella audition finally. We’ll find out tomorrow if she got in. She is also learning card tricks and tricking people.
  • Gracie got a B in instrumental lessions, she plays trombone. 
  • Leila graduated on Wednesday and she had a party on Friday. Her future step mom and step sister moved in so they don’t have to drive all the way to MA to see them.
  • Nico got new shoes.
  • Julie went to Starbucks (for the 3rd time that day) and found $20 on the side of the road. This was better than graduating High School.
  • Ben went to his brother’s wedding.
  • Tim went to see a band that he really likes in Providence. He met them outside and became friends with them. That’s how he rolls.
  • Scott made the AllStar team for his division.
  • Breanne guesses she got a new dress.
  • Reed is excited for summer vacation.
  • Michael didn’t fail 9th grade.
  • Christos went to the beach pretty much every day this week. And his parents come back.
  • Sometimes I think that eloping is the better idea, but the Lord showed me this week that I took the better route.

I Get It

The further I get into this whole wedding planning process, the more I understand why people elope. Now, I’m not saying that’s what we’re going to do, I’m just saying that some days it seems REAL tempting.

Let’s look at the perks:

1. We’d save a butt-load of money

Aside from the fact that we’ve already dropped about $5000, we would save a considerable amount of money. Money that would be put to great use when we need to buy a house…which won’t take long. 2 adults + 3 teenage boys + 1 bathroom? You do the math…

2. Ease of planning

Think about it, we’d be planning a flippin awesome trip for 2 as opposed to an event for 150. And who doesn’t like planning vacations? Crazy people. That’s who. Event planning is for work. Literally.

3. Less stress on everyone

This is how I feel about 80% of the time

Dave and I get stressed about pretty much everything. My girls get stressed about HOW to throw me a shower when we’re not registered for anything (we pretty much have everything we need), and WHEN to throw me a shower (they’re literally split 50/50 on availability). Our families are stressed about the timeline. And I’m sure the list goes on.

4. We wouldn’t have to worry about showing favoritism

I mean…seriously

But then we come to the downside…there’s always a downside:

1. I still want a shower

Even though it seems silly, I still want one. Granted, it won’t look like you’re traditional shower, since there won’t be the whole “gift opening” deal, but let’s be honest – that’s the most tedious part of showers, anyway! I’m sorry, but there is no game that you can play that will make that time more interesting. There just isn’t. It’s more important for me to spend time with people and have a relaxing afternoon – play some games, eat some food, just enjoy the company and not worry about everything that needs to get done. 

If I’m going to be the center of attention, I want it to be because people are loving on me, not because I’m opening a bunch of presents they don’t care about.

2. It takes a village

As much as I know people are stressed out, I also know that I’ve been blessed to be surrounded by people who want to serve and help out. Even though I put it on myself to be a part of everything, and help, and give ideas, and DO, I know there are people I can (and have, and will) call upon to help out. And I know they will without batting an eye. Our friends are just that amazing. And I need to relax and step back and let others do for me (a lesson I’m sure I’ll still be learning when I’m 90).

3. This is the biggest one – We wouldn’t be able to share that day and moment in our lives with everyone we love

Isn’t that the whole point of a wedding? To declare your love for each other in front of friends and family and then celebrate said love with everyone? Not to mention, his boys are a big part of the day and if we elope, it takes them out. And that’s just not acceptable.

So for all the stress, and chaos, and tears, and screams, I know it will be worth it. When our day is here (in 86 days – holy crap!) I’m confident we’ll be happy with our decisions. I’m sure we’ll look back on this time and say “It was worth it. All that ridiculousness was worth it.”

But probably more accurately:


Field Trips, Family Returns, The End of School and Friends #SimpleLittleSunday

– Julia got a new summer shirt. And she has more time to audition for swing choir and acapella

– Max’s choir final is tomorrow and it’s his last final. And he got into Caroling Choir

– Christos went to NYC with a friend

– Breanne is excited because her brother Vinnie came home

– Leila had 3 field trips this past week and she got to be partners with her friend

– Julie was exempt from almost all her finals so she’s basically done with school

– Ben got more hours at work

– Gracie knows Julia so she isn’t alone at a new church

– Ashton hung out with his girlfriend all day. They went to the lake and then out to dinner

– Katrina got her yearbook and she’s excited to relive the memories

– Adam got a laptop for his birthday

– Nico is almost done with school

– Reed is playing at Platwood Park today

– As for me, when I started Simple Little Sunday we were only a group of 5. Look at us now!

Licenses, Music, Friends and Family #SimpleLittleSunday

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  • Ben forgot his rewards card to American Eagle but the lady gave him the 15% off anyway. He also got an acceptance letter to MXCC. He gets to take one class a semester for free because he’s at the top of his class. Oh, by the way, he’s a sophomore.
  • Max’s half step sister (?) is visiting so they got to spend a lot of time with them. And today he’s going to the Renaissance faire. Also, he missed his bus twice so he ran down to the second place and missed THAT so he had to walk BACK up the hill home and saw two cute cats.
  • Breanne went to six flags for the first time and she got a job at YMCA teaching ballet, tap and jazz.
  • Gracie went white water rafting and didn’t fall out.
  • Nico has been writing a piece of music for the school band to play and they finally got to practice it. They’ll play it next year. It’s called Medieval legacy.
  • Christos is pumped that Patrick and Bethany are back (as am I…he stole mine).
  • Katrina’s grandmother’s birthday was on Wednesday and she got to see family from MA that she hasn’t seen for a while.
  • Grace went to a wedding and had a lot of fun.
  • Reed got his license.
  • I got to see friends who I haven’t seen in YEARS on Saturday. Gosh I’ve missed them. We also had a great night of worship on Friday.

A Day Late, But Not a Buck Short #SimpleLittleSunday

Julia – Got a haircut she really likes

Alyssa – Went mini golfing at Saybrook point

Leila – Had a school Formal and went to Harkness Park and took pictures with her friends and lost her voice from screaming joyously

Grace – Had fun sleeping over her sister’s house

Max – His school project right now is making songs accapella and his group is doing a mashup of “Sweet Dreams” and “The Hanging Tree”

Friday was his sister’s bday

Cassandra’s older sister is coming in two days

He cleaned his room and it’s the cleanest it’s ever been

Christos – Went on a really good Bmx ride

Ben – Got some hot new kicks

Tim – Had a rest beach day at Hammonasset and it was peaceful and wonderful

And I got to spend the weekend at a DIVE Reunion with some amazing women and THEN got to visit with friends I haven’t seen in 3 years. So blessed. SO crazy. SO TIRED! But totally worth it.